I’ve spent a lot of time this year questioning things.
Questioning if I’m moving in the right direction with my business; questioning if I’m doing the best thing with my work.
Questioning what I need to do next to keep growing personally and professionally. Questioning if I should work on expanding my social circle or focus on developing deeper connections with the people I already know.
Questioning if I’m making all the right decisions with my money; questioning if I’m truly striking a fair balance between living well today and saving what I need to build wealth for the future.
I am a skeptical person by nature, and I think asking questions is a highly valuable exercise in almost every situation.
But I also know, through lots of experience, all the questions can put you in a place where you can’t see the forest for the trees. Or at least, you lose sight of what you know to be certain.
And when you start questioning what you can reasonably know as truth, it’s hard to stay grounded. And for me, it’s tough to focus on what matters.
So as a re-grounding, a coming-back-to-center exercise for myself, I want to share a few things that seem certain to me — things that, in the midst of exploring and questioning and wondering, I can come back to and simply know:
I know it’s up to me to create meaning in life.
I know that time is my most valuable resource and something that’s more important to me than money.
Similarly, the only time that’s real is right now. We’re usually wasting our time if we’re dwelling on the past or wishing for the future.
I know that for me, success is maintaining autonomy. Freedom and flexibility over who I am, where I am, what I do, and when I do it.
I know that relationships are what provide happiness in life. (And I know I have some damn good ones that bring me the absolute best kind of joy.)
I know that we’re never done changing and becoming who we’re meant to be, and the journey should be the focus (not some end destination; it’s a process).
I know, as cliche as it sounds, the magic really does happen outside my comfort zone. Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is almost always the answer to any challenge.
I know that writer’s block isn’t real (even though I’ve desperately wanted to believe in it this week). It’s just a matter of sitting down and doing the work — and that’s what separates the amateurs from the pros.
I know that, in all cases, just doing the work will get you somewhere good. Whenever you’re in doubt, whenever you find yourself questioning things just a little too much, you can come back to that. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Trust everything is absolutely okay. Then get back to work.